Control Anxiety

You might be in the situation where you know your self-esteem is low but you cannot seem to snap out of it. Ask yourself if you are just blaming others for your low self-esteem and not taking action to correct it yourself. It really does not take much to get started in the recovery journey to reverse your low self-esteem. Here are some suggestions and indicators to determine if you might be blocking your own recovery and what you can do about it.

Do you do things to avoid relationships? People with low self-esteem oftentimes are very busy people. They work late to avoid social gatherings. They always turn down invitations to parties. They get involved in many different activities or hobbies to avoid human interaction. Human relationships are complicated and sometimes there can be conflict and things never do go perfect. This is not to say that you should have relationships with people who tear you down. Start gradually by injecting yourself into social situations and practice interacting with people.

Do people think you are a happy person? People with low self-esteem are not happy people. And, those who are around him or her are not fooled either. If you find that you are never happy with anything then look to see if your level of self-esteem is the problem. The best way to start being happy is to catch yourself when you start to complain. It will work wonders towards your recovery if you just learn to find something good in your job, family, school, and social activities. Even if you can't find anything good, just stop complaining.

Not caring for yourself is a classic indicator of low self-esteem. You no longer fix your hair. You no longer put on makeup. You let your belly grow to enormous proportions. You wear clothes that are faded and obviously in need of replacement. Exercise is out of the agenda for you. Sweets and fried fast food become your daily diet. Because you have a low opinion of yourself, you do nothing to improve and maintain your appearance and health. You will be amazed at just how quickly you can recover from low self-esteem if you begin to change your appearance and start exercising.

Do you let yourself be a door mat? People with low self-esteem don't say "no" because it might start conflict. Conflict is something the person with low self-esteem tries to avoid at all costs. So these people never recover because they can never push back and deny an unreasonable request from someone. They always say yes when it comes to working late (beats having personal relationships at home). They accept jobs that have the lowest pay scales. If this is you, start today by saying no to some unreasonable demand on your resources. Don't just say no just for the sake of it. Carefully analyze what is an unreasonable demand on you first.

Analyze carefully what you are saying about yourself. If you are always saying negative things about yourself then you need to catch that and stop it. Only you can do that. Oftentimes people with low self-esteem will throw out their self-insults for public ears so that the people around them will say the opposite. This can actually drive away any relationships you might have which will do nothing to help your recovery.